一、braving the wilderness: the quest for true belonging and the courage to stand alone直面荒野：寻找真实的归属感和独立的勇气4.27·rating details·4,983 ratings·685 reviews"true belonging doesn’t require us to change who we are. it requires us to be who we are."真实的归属感不需要咱们改动自个，而是变成自个。brown argues that we’re experiencing a spiritual crisis of disconnection, and introduces fou
r practices of true belonging that challenge everything we believe about ourselves and each other.she writes, "true belonging requires us to believe in and belong to ourselves so fully that we can find sacredness both in being a part of something and in standing alone when necessary.归宿感需要咱们信赖自个而且归于自个，这样做今后不管是独处仍是变成集体的一有些咱们都能受人尊敬。but in a culture that’s rife with perfectionism and pleasing, and with the erosion of civility, it’s easy to stay quiet, hide in our ideological bunkers, or fit in rather than show up as our true selves and brave the wilderness of uncertainty and criticism.可是在一个充溢完满主义和凑趣主义以及礼貌缺失的文明中，咱们很简略坚持恬静，躲藏自个的这种知道形状中，或许去习气这种文明，而不是展示咱们真实的自个，英勇面临不断定性和批判。but true belonging is not something we negotiate or accomplish with others; it’s a daily practice that demands integrity and authenticity. it’s a personal commitment that we carry in our hearts."可是真实的归宿感不是与人洽谈或一起结束的作业，它是一种每天的操练活动，需要咱们诚笃并坚持真实。它是走心的自个承诺。2、so good they can’t ignore you: why skills trump passion in the quest for work you love优良到不能被无视4.09·rating details·11,753 ratings·1,196 reviews读书笔记现已做过，不做过多介绍。书中的观念有：跟从自个的热情靠不住。培育自个的作业本钱。作业中那些稀少而又有价值的技能。选择那些比情面愿给你付钱的作业等等。in this eye-opening account, cal newport debunks（戳穿；点破…的假面具）the long-held belief that "follow your passion" is good advice.not only is the cliché flawed-preexisting passions are rare and have little to do with how most people end up loving their work-but it can also be dangerous, leading to anxiety and chronic job hopping.为啥我们最终不爱自个早年很有热情的作业了。after making his case against passion, newport sets out on a quest to discover the reality of how people end up loving what they do. spending time with organic farmers, venture capitalists, screenwriters, freelance computer programmers, and others who admitted to deriving great satisfaction from their work, newport uncovers the strategies they used and the pitfalls they avoided in developing their compelling careers.matching your job to a preexisting passion does not matter, he reveals. passion comes after you put in the hard work to become excellent at something valuable, not before.把你的作业与预先存在的热情分配在一同并不可以靠，热情来自于你把作业做的满足杰出今后，而不是作业之前。with a title taken from the comedian steve martin, who once said his advice for aspiring entertainers was to "be so good they can’t ignore you," cal newport’s clearly written manifesto is mandatory reading for anyone fretting about what to do with their life, or frustrated by their current job situation and eager to find a fresh new way to take control of their livelihood. he provides an evidence-based blueprint for creating work you love.so good they can’t ignore you will change the way we think about our careers, happiness, and the crafting of a remarkable life.3、grit坚毅4.07·rating details·20,623 ratings·1,930 reviewsin this must-read book for anyone striving to succeed, pioneering psychologist angela duckworth shows parents, educators, athletes, students, and business people-both seasoned and new-that thesecret to outstanding achievement is not talent but a focused persistence called“grit.”why do some people succeed and others fail? sharing new insights from her landmark research on grit, macarthur“genius”angela duckworth explains why talent is hardly a guarantor of success. rather, other factors can be even more crucial such as identifying our passions and following through on our commitments.当前这本是正在阅览，其间作者非常用心，每次论说自个的观念或许提出一种新观念都会找到观念的来历和一句。这也是美国鸡汤和我国鸡汤的差异，美国鸡汤后边会有心思学实验的根据，还会给你它的出处。而我国的鸡汤就是喊标语。当你问道“这句?档模磕闼嫡饩浠坝猩陡荩俊闭馐俏夜募μ朗楸臼谴鸶床涣说摹Ｋ晕夜μ莱＜奶茁肪褪恰澳趁怂?…”,“某个闻名的实验说…..”，或许“近邻的xxx说…”.4、quiet: the power of introverts in a world that can’t stop talking恬静：内向者的力气4.04·rating details·228,248 ratings·17,972 reviewsat least one-third of the people we know are introverts. they are the ones who prefer listening to speaking, reading to partying; who innovate and create but dislike self-promotion; who favor working on their own over brainstorming in teams. although they are often labeled "quiet," it is to introverts that we owe many of the great contributions to society–from van gogh’s sunflowers to the invention of the personal computer.这是一本可以耐久改动咱们怎样看待内向者以?侨绾慰创愿觥his extraordinary book has the power to permanently change how we see introverts and, equally important, how introverts see themselves.5、option b: facing adversity, building resilience and finding joyb方案3.95·rating details·16,516 ratings·1,529 reviews这本书不做过多的介绍早年的读书笔记里写过，感快乐喜爱的同学可以翻看早年的笔记。总之良知举荐特别好的一本书，特别合适日子遇到困难的同学看看，面临日子的意外，如何快速恢复，具有恢复力，奋力反弹，过的非常好。after the sudden death of her husband, sheryl sandberg felt certain that she and her children would never feel pure joy again.“i was in‘the void,’”she writes,“a vast emptiness that fills your heart and lungs and restricts your ability to think or even breathe.”her friend adam grant, a psychologist at wharton, told her there are concrete steps people can take to recover and rebound from life-shattering experiences. we are not born with a fixed amount of resilience. it is a muscle that everyone can build.option b combines sheryl’s personal insights with adam’s eye-opening research on finding strength in the face of adversity. beginning with the gut-wrenching moment when she finds her husband, dave goldberg, collapsed on a gym floor, sheryl opens up her heart—and her journal—to describe the acute grief and isolation she felt in the wake of his death. but option b goes beyond sheryl’s loss to explore how a broad range of people have overcome hardships including illness, job loss, sexual assault, natural disasters, and the violence of war. their stories reveal the capacity of the human spirit to persevere . . . and to rediscover joy.resilience comes from deep within us and from support outside us. even after the most devastating events, it is possible to grow by finding deeper meaning and gaining greater appreciation in our lives. option b illuminates how to help others in crisis, develop compassion for ourselves, raise strong children, and create resilient families, communities, and workplaces. many of these lessons can be applied to everyday struggles, allowing us to brave whatever lies ahead. two weeks after losing her husband, sheryl was preparing for a father-child activity.“i want dave,”she cried. her friend replied,“option a is not available,”and then promised to help her make the most of option b.we all live some form of option b. this book will help us all make the most of it.